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The Tap Has Not Run Dry

Still. The milk tap that is. Even thought I have not nursed my son since May 30th. The afternoon of the 30th to be specific. And yet my body is still producing milk.

It is not the quantity that it was a week or so ago. I do not leak randomly in the afternoon, or anything, but it’s still there. I pretty certain that my son can still smell it. He tries to pull my shirt up occasionally when he sits on my lap. He does pleasantly drink milk from a cup, but still requests the tap. Most often after what he considers traumatic events. You know like falling down, or having his sister steal a toy from him.

The fact that my body is still putting it out there, makes me feel like I should just give it up and let him have it. On the other hand I like the freedom. My body is (almost) my own. Again, for the first time in four years.

I am not in any pain from the lingering milk supply, just annoyed mostly.

My neighbor and a few other mama friends asked me if I have tried cabbage. I haven’t. Honestly the thought never crossed my mind. I thought that cabbage was for soothing painful nipples, but apparently it will help dry you up too. Now that I have this information I should put it to use, right?

Maybe not. It’s strange. I feel a little sad at the thought of cabbag-ing myself. It’s as though I am really saying goodbye to baby-hood. In a way it’s silly to think like that. I mean I haven’t nursed my son in 19 days already anyhow, and I have a toddler, not a baby. Still I can’t really explain why, but the thought makes me a little teary eyed.

I have been told that it can take my body up to six months to figure things out. That sounds a little crazy to me. Especially considering that he was only nursing once a day at the point that I stopped. I was very much convinced he was not getting any milk, and that it was just for comfort. I really thought drying up would be super fast. Based on the lingering milk, it is looking like I was wrong.

So, to cabbage or not to cabbage, that is the question? What would you do in my situation?

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Gwen

The Decision To Stop Breast Feeding

Ahh, such a tricky topic. Why? Well because everyone has an opinion, and really they should, it just doesn’t mean that their opinion is worth sharing, but they do anyway.

K2 in action at 14 months old (today his is 18 months old)

I truly believe that deciding when to stop breast feeding is a personal decision. Yes of course it is good for you to offer breast milk for as long as your child drinks milk.  We are the only mammal that not only continues to drink milk after weaning, but we also will drink another mammals milk. Because we as humans are weirdo’s, but we have long ago accepted that. So the idea of drinking breast milk forever is pretty much crazy. In comes the personal decision part of when to wean.

I think (this is all just my opinion not fact) everyone could use support for breast feeding and that there could/should be more over all exposure. Both of my children had latch issues. It is possible that if I was more comfortable around breast feeding in general, it would have been a less stressful time in baby hood. I actualy never saw anyone breast feed until I was trying to do it with my daughter. She was also preemie and in NICU so this had to happen on a schedule, not when nature thought things would work out.

With K1 I never actually decided to stop breast feeding. My children are 19 months apart. When K1 was 11 months old I started baking K2. I had to have a cerclage placed for both of my pregnancies. Breast feeding is not allowed once those stitches are placed, because nursing causes contractions. Bad times for everyone. So, a few days before my surgery, I stopped nursing her. With K1 it was a fairly easy transition. We had stored BM (Breast milk) and I was working at night, she was used to taking a bottle of milk from daddy anyway. Yes there were times when she asked, but all was pretty smooth sailing.

With K2 there is no pregnancy to mandate the stopping of breast feeding. He also never took a pacifier. He  pretty much never took to a bottle, and instead went right to water in a sippy cup. My son loves his mommy. There really has been no end in sight. It’s has only been a mild frustration because he depends on that to go to sleep at night (not at nap time).

Wednesday I decided he was done. I have no idea why, it just felt like the time. We have only been nursing once a day, at night. Thursday I had my final and wouldn’t be home anyway, so I decided to quit. As with K1 there is stored BM for him, and it will last a good while, at least 3 months.

Every night he cries and screams for milk and mommy.

Tonight was the first time that I had to put him to bed, alone, with no one else in the house since I decided to cut him off the tap.

Tonight I got the same cries that I heard every other night. When I went back in after letting him cry for 5 minutes he said “mommy no milk” and cried his little eyes out, repeating it a few more times. Way to break my heart little guy. For real, that’s just not fair.

Add to that the fact that I never really went through the whole “drying up” business before. The last two days my body has been expelling milk in the afternoon. Really? I was fairly certain he wasn’t really drinking any milk, and this sort of leaking business is less than pleasant. Ugh.

While I decided it was time for us to stop breast feeding I am not certain my son agrees. I am thinking/hoping he will come around to the idea. Thoughts?

Why did you decide to stop breast feeding? How did it go?

Gwen

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